Jul 31 2015

The A-hole Defense

BullyingBy Jon Hyman

We have all had those bosses. You know, the ones whose mere presence strikes fear into employees. I remember mine. A page from his assistant made you shudder. He only had one way of communicating when he spoke to you: yelling. And God forbid you challenged him or questioned his authority. To call him difficult was an understatement. He was — pardon my French — an a-hole to work for. But, here’s the thing. He was an a-hole to everyone, which protected him from liability to anyone. For harassment to qualify as “unlawful” harassment, it must be because of a legally protected characteristic. For example, in the case of sexual harassment, the complained-of misconduct must be of a sexual nature, or it must single out women differently than men. Nonsex-based conduct that targets women and men the same, no matter how harsh, is not sexual harassment.

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Jul 30 2015

Surprise the Bully

Wizard of Oz scarecrowBy Dr. Lynne Curry

Question: I work next to an extremely hostile individual who hums “If I only had a brain” whenever I’m at my desk. I’ve stopped speaking up in staff meetings because he rolls his eyes when I talk and makes caustic comments about what I say. When other employees make a mistake, he points in my direction and asks, “Have you been hanging around her?” The worst is I have dark arm hair and he’s constantly cracking jokes about my “hairy” arms. How much do I have to take? I’ve been trying to ignore him but it’s getting to me. I complained to my supervisor who said “deal with it.” I secretly think both men have problems with women.

Answer: When a co-worker treats you with open contempt and your supervisor won’t back you, you need to force a cease-fire without losing your cool. Ignoring a jerk only works if you mean it. When you pretend to ignore comments that truly hit home, your upset shows and the workplace bully gets the reaction he craves. The man you describe has taken the rope you handed him by allowing his comments to pass unchallenged and made a hammock from which he now comfortably slings arrows your way whenever he chooses.
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Jul 29 2015

Workplace Bullying And Other Harassing Behaviors You Should Never Tolerate In Your Office

HarassmentBy Gina Florio

Unhappiness in the workplace is more common than we think it is. According to a poll by the Employment Law Alliance, 45 percent of Americans report being abused in the office. Not only does this affect their quality of work, but this mistreatment follows them home, influencing their mental and physical health. People can experience headaches, loss of appetite, and even PTSD as the result of workplace abuse.

Sadly, women are usually the targets of this kind of aggressive workplace behavior. Dr. George Simon, author of In Sheep’s Clothing, says women often have a tendency towards social interaction that makes them vulnerable to aggressors. Females have incredible intuition, but we just have to listen to our instincts more often, he instructs. In other words, there is a thin line between joking around and causing harm to each other in the office — but you know the difference. The more time you spend with your coworkers, the easier it can be to cross this boundary, so it’s important to find the right balance between light interaction and hurtful dialogue.

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Jul 28 2015

Three steps to prevent workplace bullying

HRM OnlineBy Prabha Kutty

The RCMP is not unique in its struggles against workplace bullying. In recent years organisations in both the public and private sectors in Canada and other OECD nations have been attempting to reduce bullying at the workplace with limited success.

The Workplace Bullying report tabled in the Australian Parliament in 2012 indicates that bullying costs the Australian economy between A$6 billion and $36 billion annually. In the U.S. figures of US$200 billion have been quoted. Various surveys taken in these countries suggest that on average 35% of employees have been bullied at their workplace.

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Jul 27 2015

Bullied at work? It happens more often than many people realize

Orange County Register logoBy Michelle Rafter

Lindsay Wooldridge’s former employer called her “fat,” “trailer trash,” and worse.

A co-worker at Mark Coblentz’s previous job threatened him to the point where he was afraid to walk to his car after his shift ended.

At Marilyn Wilson’s former job, where she ran a school learning center, administrators told her she created a hostile workplace by making people feel sympathetic toward her. They told her “that wasn’t the role of my job, and I shouldn’t be looking for support,” she said.

Different people, different circumstances, one common denominator: all say they were targets of workplace bullying.

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Jul 24 2015

Tackle bullying in your nursing team

BullyingBy Aryanne Oade

As a manager or supervisor of a nursing team, you may spot a team member using bullying behaviour and decide to confront them. However, this can be challenging because workplace bullies are often adept at avoiding accountability for their use of aggression towards colleagues. Each bully will have their own tactics for avoiding responsibility during a confrontation with their manager or supervisor. These tactics often fall into two categories. Either the bully justifies their use of aggressive behaviour in the workplace by citing a need to drive their team members to prevent them from failing. Or the bully switches the conversation away from their bullying behaviour onto you, making you the problem for suggesting they are employing unwarranted aggression.

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